Today marks the beginning of my journey to heal and regulate my nervous system. I promised myself I would start gently, without pushing my body into more stress. It seems impossible, but I am so fed up with feeling like this that I have to try. For my first activity, I chose something that required minimal effort but could still give my body a boost: the Chi Machine. It was my Granny’s and we used to use it every once in a while when we would visit her. She used it when we she wanted to “move” her body without having to do acutally do anything. I set the timer…

I’ve been thinking a lot about why healing the nervous system feels so impossible sometimes. It’s something that’s at the center of everything: your emotions, your reactions, your body, your sleep, your digestion, your ability to feel safe. Honestly, I feel like it affects your money, too! When your nervous system is dysregulated, it touches every part of your life. I thought I had tried everything.Natural remedies.Doctor prescribed medicine.Breathwork.Supplements.Prayer. Still, it felt like nothing was really working. I would feel better for a moment, then crash. Or I’d have a good week and then get triggered again and spiral. I kept wondering: Why is this so hard? So, I started…

I learned how to crochet when I was little. But it wasn’t until 2020, when the world hit pause and outside felt like a deleted scene from a dystopian movie, that I really got into it. Y’all. I fell in love with crocheting. Not just because it gave my hands something to do while binge-watching old shows, but because it gave my mind some peace. It’s wild how looping yarn around a hook can calm your nervous system, but here we are. 🐄 Why I Crochet (and Why I’m Kinda Obsessed with Making Cows) At first, I made the basics: scarves, beanies, purses, a few blankets that took longer than…

Gentle Tools for Coping with Memory Fog from Trauma & Depression So you read my last post and said,“Damn… I thought it was just me.”Well, boo it’s not just you.And now that we know memory fog is real and rooted in something deeper, the question becomes: what can we do about it? I’m not gonna hit you with some bootcamp productivity planner nonsense.This ain’t that.This is a soft girl’s guide to managing memory loss when you’re already doing the best you can. Let’s talk tools. Gentle ones. 1. Write Things Down, Baby, Even the Small Stuff No, you’re not doing “too much” for having a notes app full of random…

“I Swear I’m Not Lying… I Just Don’t Remember”: If I had a dollar for every time I forgot something important then got hit with the side eye like I was lying or just didn’t care I’d be writing this from a cabin. In Iceland. Yes, I’m that type of girl. But I’m not.I’m just a Black woman who’s lived through some things, trying to explain why my brain doesn’t always cooperate the way other people’s might expect it to. Let’s talk about memory loss from trauma and depression because it’s real, it’s common, and it’s not because you’re lazy, careless, or faking it. When the Timeline Feels Like Swiss…

Okay… so we’ve talked about boundaries in dating, marriage, friendships, and family.But what about everybody else? Because listen Just because someone isn’t close to you doesn’t mean they get to have free access to you. Let’s talk about the folks in your day-to-day life who still need gentle but firm “no thank yous.” Coworkers & Clients Because “we work together” ≠ “I owe you my peace.” 💬 Reminder: You are not at work to prove your worth. You’re there to do your job not babysit adult emotions. Neighbors Just because we live near each other doesn’t mean we’re besties. 💬 Reminder: Friendly doesn’t mean available. Be neighborly, not drained. Strangers…

Let’s be real for a second… So many of us were taught to not rock the boat to keep the peace, stay quiet, and be “nice.”But sometimes “being nice” means abandoning yourself.And baby, we’re not doing that anymore. Boundaries are not about being mean.They’re about being safe.They’re not about controlling other people; they’re about protecting you. Let’s talk about the four big areas: dating, marriage, friendships, and family. Dating Boundaries Because red flags should not be home décor. 💬 Reminder: A partner who’s really for you will respect your no and love your yes. Marriage Boundaries Yes, even in marriage. Especially in marriage. 💬 Reminder: A healthy marriage has two…

Sometimes we can’t just leave.We can’t quit the job.We can’t stop answering texts.We can’t move out.We can’t make everyone act right. But we can protect our peace. And that’s a form of power most people forget we have. Here are some gentle ways to guard your energy, even when the world around you is loud: 1. Create micro-moments of calm Even 3 minutes of deep breathing, standing in the sun, or washing your hands slowly can reset your nervous system. You don’t need an hour just a pause. 💭 Try this:Put your phone on “Do Not Disturb” for 10 minutes a day. Let your soul breathe. 2. Don’t explain your…

Why I Created This Blog (And What You’ll Find Here) If you’ve stumbled across this blog, welcome. I want this to be a soft, safe place for you and me. I created this blog during a season when I was craving peace, freedom, and clarity. After years of surviving, masking pain, carrying pressure, and always having to be the strong one… I realized I needed a space where I could just be. Not perfect. Not healed all the way. Just honest, growing, and softening little by little. This blog is where I get to do that. And it’s where you can do that, too. What You’ll Find Here This isn’t…