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Memory Loss, Trauma, and Trying to Function Anyway
“I Swear I’m Not Lying… I Just Don’t Remember”: If I had a dollar for every time I forgot something important then got hit with the side eye like I was lying or just didn’t care I’d be writing this from a cabin. In Iceland. Yes, I’m that type of girl. But I’m not.I’m just a Black woman who’s lived through some things, trying to explain why my brain doesn’t always cooperate the way other people’s might expect it to. Let’s talk about memory loss from trauma and depression because it’s real, it’s common, and it’s not because you’re lazy, careless, or faking it. When the Timeline Feels Like Swiss…
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Boundaries with Strangers, Coworkers, Neighbors, and the Internet? Yes, Please.
Okay… so we’ve talked about boundaries in dating, marriage, friendships, and family.But what about everybody else? Because listen Just because someone isn’t close to you doesn’t mean they get to have free access to you. Let’s talk about the folks in your day-to-day life who still need gentle but firm “no thank yous.” Coworkers & Clients Because “we work together” ≠ “I owe you my peace.” 💬 Reminder: You are not at work to prove your worth. You’re there to do your job not babysit adult emotions. Neighbors Just because we live near each other doesn’t mean we’re besties. 💬 Reminder: Friendly doesn’t mean available. Be neighborly, not drained. Strangers…
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Read This If You Struggle to Set Boundaries in Relationships
Let’s be real for a second… So many of us were taught to not rock the boat to keep the peace, stay quiet, and be “nice.”But sometimes “being nice” means abandoning yourself.And baby, we’re not doing that anymore. Boundaries are not about being mean.They’re about being safe.They’re not about controlling other people; they’re about protecting you. Let’s talk about the four big areas: dating, marriage, friendships, and family. Dating Boundaries Because red flags should not be home décor. 💬 Reminder: A partner who’s really for you will respect your no and love your yes. Marriage Boundaries Yes, even in marriage. Especially in marriage. 💬 Reminder: A healthy marriage has two…
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How to Protect Your Peace (Even When You Can’t Escape the Chaos)
Sometimes we can’t just leave.We can’t quit the job.We can’t stop answering texts.We can’t move out.We can’t make everyone act right. But we can protect our peace. And that’s a form of power most people forget we have. Here are some gentle ways to guard your energy, even when the world around you is loud: 1. Create micro-moments of calm Even 3 minutes of deep breathing, standing in the sun, or washing your hands slowly can reset your nervous system. You don’t need an hour just a pause. 💭 Try this:Put your phone on “Do Not Disturb” for 10 minutes a day. Let your soul breathe. 2. Don’t explain your…
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Lifestyle, Healing & Real Advice for Real Life
Why I Created This Blog (And What You’ll Find Here) If you’ve stumbled across this blog, welcome. I want this to be a soft, safe place for you and me. I created this blog during a season when I was craving peace, freedom, and clarity. After years of surviving, masking pain, carrying pressure, and always having to be the strong one… I realized I needed a space where I could just be. Not perfect. Not healed all the way. Just honest, growing, and softening little by little. This blog is where I get to do that. And it’s where you can do that, too. What You’ll Find Here This isn’t…
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Got a Question About Life, Healing, or Relationships? Ask Me Here (Free Personal Advice)
Healing, clarity, and real answers shouldn’t always come with a price tag.That’s why I’ve created this space where you can ask me anything, for free. Whether you’re dealing with: You can send in your question anonymously or with your name, and I may feature it (with love + respect) right here on the blog. How to Ask Me a Question: Please note: I choose 1–2 questions weekly to answer on the blog. If your question is chosen, I’ll respond with thoughtful, healing-centered advice in a new post. Check back often so you don’t miss yours. Let’s Heal Together This blog is here to remind you that you’re not alone.You don’t…
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How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship
Every day you hear about a struggle someone is having in their relationship. Whether it be on social media, tv, or in your own life, there is always an issue that seems to never end. How is that possible? Is it their behavior or personality? Their circumstances? Or is the possibility that it wasn’t meant to be? As someone who relies on The Lord’s opinion and guidance for everything, I’ve come to realize that most of the time the last option is the truth. I feel like we may have all been there. Without even knowing I can tell by their situation what is going on. It doesn’t even have…
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How do I deal with bad communication in a long distance relationship?
Question: My Boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. It has been going fine for the past few years, but now it is getting hard. We are having a hard time connecting and communicating. How can we fix this? Do you have any tips to make it through a relationship like this? Advice: First, I want to give you an imaginary high-five for staying in a long distance relationship for so long. It is very hard, and not many people are able to go the distance that you have been able to!
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6 Reasons Why Your Friend’s Don’t Listen to Your Advice
Friends and family often come to the most trusted person for advice. (I say often because there are a few times they will go to someone else for a second opinion. This, unfortunately, can get them in trouble, but I’ll come back to that later.) This trusted person will listen and put themselves in your shoes so they can give you the best advice possible. They give you the truth, it may hurt, it may be the best thing you ever heard, or just plain out wrong. But you will always know what their intentions are, no confusion! You as the advice giver must be ready to listen and come…
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How do I move on after a break-up?
Question: How do I move on after a break-up? A break-up is a very hard thing to go through. It has happened to everyone, whether they like to admit it or not. There are many things that make this time harder than it should be. Lets start out by addressing the main reason it becomes hard. You think about the good times and ways that you could make it work. Stop that as soon as it starts. Don’t sit in your room all day and have that person on your mind. It will make it hard for you to do anything. Realize there is nothing you can do to…