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My Favorite Sims 4 Cheat Codes (and Why I use Them)
Let’s get one thing straight.I’m not here to struggle.In The Sims, I’m rich, well-rested, and living in a mid-century modern dream home.Cheat codes? Oh, best believe I’m putting them all in. Here are my favorite Sims 4 cheats, what they do, and the slightly toxic ways I use them: 1. motherlode Adds §50,000 simoleons instantly. Why I use it:Because my Sim has endured enough. Between her situationship with Don Lothario and her toddler throwing tantrums, she deserves luxury.Let her live. 2. testingcheats true Turns on all the magic. What you can do with it: Why I use it:Because my Sim isn’t going to pee herself at her wedding. I have…
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5 Things I Always Do in The Sims 4
If you’re anything like me, The Sims isn’t just a game; it’s therapy, storytelling, interior design, and a little bit of controlled chaos all rolled into one. Here are 5 fun, weird, and totally necessary things I always do when I play The Sims 4: 1. Make my Sims friends with Everyone I don’t care, she’s gonna be friends with everyone! I also don’t have time to be worried about working on relationships when I want them to fall in love now!I make sure to use the UI cheats mod to put that romance level on 100. 2. Build My Dream House… Then Never Play in It I’ll spend 3…
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Okay, So I’m Forgetting Everything… Now What?
Gentle Tools for Coping with Memory Fog from Trauma & Depression So you read my last post and said,“Damn… I thought it was just me.”Well, boo it’s not just you.And now that we know memory fog is real and rooted in something deeper, the question becomes: what can we do about it? I’m not gonna hit you with some bootcamp productivity planner nonsense.This ain’t that.This is a soft girl’s guide to managing memory loss when you’re already doing the best you can. Let’s talk tools. Gentle ones. 1. Write Things Down, Baby, Even the Small Stuff No, you’re not doing “too much” for having a notes app full of random…
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Memory Loss, Trauma, and Trying to Function Anyway
“I Swear I’m Not Lying… I Just Don’t Remember”: If I had a dollar for every time I forgot something important then got hit with the side eye like I was lying or just didn’t care I’d be writing this from a cabin. In Iceland. Yes, I’m that type of girl. But I’m not.I’m just a Black woman who’s lived through some things, trying to explain why my brain doesn’t always cooperate the way other people’s might expect it to. Let’s talk about memory loss from trauma and depression because it’s real, it’s common, and it’s not because you’re lazy, careless, or faking it. When the Timeline Feels Like Swiss…
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Boundaries with Strangers, Coworkers, Neighbors, and the Internet? Yes, Please.
Okay… so we’ve talked about boundaries in dating, marriage, friendships, and family.But what about everybody else? Because listen Just because someone isn’t close to you doesn’t mean they get to have free access to you. Let’s talk about the folks in your day-to-day life who still need gentle but firm “no thank yous.” Coworkers & Clients Because “we work together” ≠ “I owe you my peace.” 💬 Reminder: You are not at work to prove your worth. You’re there to do your job not babysit adult emotions. Neighbors Just because we live near each other doesn’t mean we’re besties. 💬 Reminder: Friendly doesn’t mean available. Be neighborly, not drained. Strangers…
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Read This If You Struggle to Set Boundaries in Relationships
Let’s be real for a second… So many of us were taught to not rock the boat to keep the peace, stay quiet, and be “nice.”But sometimes “being nice” means abandoning yourself.And baby, we’re not doing that anymore. Boundaries are not about being mean.They’re about being safe.They’re not about controlling other people; they’re about protecting you. Let’s talk about the four big areas: dating, marriage, friendships, and family. Dating Boundaries Because red flags should not be home décor. 💬 Reminder: A partner who’s really for you will respect your no and love your yes. Marriage Boundaries Yes, even in marriage. Especially in marriage. 💬 Reminder: A healthy marriage has two…
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How to Protect Your Peace (Even When You Can’t Escape the Chaos)
Sometimes we can’t just leave.We can’t quit the job.We can’t stop answering texts.We can’t move out.We can’t make everyone act right. But we can protect our peace. And that’s a form of power most people forget we have. Here are some gentle ways to guard your energy, even when the world around you is loud: 1. Create micro-moments of calm Even 3 minutes of deep breathing, standing in the sun, or washing your hands slowly can reset your nervous system. You don’t need an hour just a pause. 💭 Try this:Put your phone on “Do Not Disturb” for 10 minutes a day. Let your soul breathe. 2. Don’t explain your…
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Lifestyle, Healing & Real Advice for Real Life
Why I Created This Blog (And What You’ll Find Here) If you’ve stumbled across this blog, welcome. I want this to be a soft, safe place for you and me. I created this blog during a season when I was craving peace, freedom, and clarity. After years of surviving, masking pain, carrying pressure, and always having to be the strong one… I realized I needed a space where I could just be. Not perfect. Not healed all the way. Just honest, growing, and softening little by little. This blog is where I get to do that. And it’s where you can do that, too. What You’ll Find Here This isn’t…
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Got a Question About Life, Healing, or Relationships? Ask Me Here (Free Personal Advice)
Healing, clarity, and real answers shouldn’t always come with a price tag.That’s why I’ve created this space where you can ask me anything, for free. Whether you’re dealing with: You can send in your question anonymously or with your name, and I may feature it (with love + respect) right here on the blog. How to Ask Me a Question: Please note: I choose 1–2 questions weekly to answer on the blog. If your question is chosen, I’ll respond with thoughtful, healing-centered advice in a new post. Check back often so you don’t miss yours. Let’s Heal Together This blog is here to remind you that you’re not alone.You don’t…
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How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship
Every day you hear about a struggle someone is having in their relationship. Whether it be on social media, tv, or in your own life, there is always an issue that seems to never end. How is that possible? Is it their behavior or personality? Their circumstances? Or is the possibility that it wasn’t meant to be? As someone who relies on The Lord’s opinion and guidance for everything, I’ve come to realize that most of the time the last option is the truth. I feel like we may have all been there. Without even knowing I can tell by their situation what is going on. It doesn’t even have…