When It’s Time To Leave

There comes a time when you just have to leave. This could be a job, a relationship, or just a negative situation in general. For me I’ve made this decision many times. It was never easy and it usually involved a lot of back and forth thoughts. But, in certain situations you have to have a certain thought process to figure out if it is time to go.

The first thing you do is look around and evaluate what is going on around you. Then you start asking questions. Is it negative? Are the people here doing anything to harm me? Am I wasting my time? Is there something better that I can be doing? And the list goes on and on. What you will notice is most of the questions will be hard to answer. That’s when you know you’re probably in the beginning stages of leaving. I say this because you begin to makes excuses, put feelings off, over think things, and try to push through the negativity. You don’t have to do it, but you want to finish what you start, or you may even feel guilty for not making the right decision.

When you start to feel the negativity build up and you finally have that one incident, or even see something that takes you over the edge, then you are ready to go! Finally! You can walk out the door feeling free. Of course you’ll think about the decision to leave and wonder if it was the right thing to do, but after a few minutes, you’ll realize that you are much happier without all of the stress.

There are situations where you need to stay. Sometimes you are just meant to be where you are to learn a lesson and/or overcome something. Many people in my family or friends have all had bad living situations. It is very negative, or hard to deal with. They always want to just leave and think everything will be better. What they fail to realize is this same situation happens at every house they are in. Every time they go somewhere the outcome is the same. If this is the case for you it means that there is a lesson that has to be learned from this. You were meant to stay where you are and ride it out. Open your eyes and look at the situation. Evaluate what you are doing and what characteristics about you are causing these reactions from others. Everyone has to change and needs to change at some point in their life. This is a good time to see where you need to make a change. Once you see a difference in how others treat you then you know something positive is taking place.


  1. Grace


    Yes! Girl I have been through this so many times. It is the worst feeling being somewhere where you just know its time to leave but you stay anyways. You learn a lot about yourself and how much strength you really have.

    Thanks for the post Monae

  2. Anonymous


    Whoa… this is a good post

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